While I don’t typically chime in on trending topics such as these, what’s happening with Gayle King has been on my mind for several days. Therefore, I need to say something.

I didn’t see the entire interview with Lisa Leslie; I saw the clip the network shared as well as Snoop Dogg’s initial video – that was plenty.

Would I have posed the question about Kobe’s past? No. Out of respect for those mourning the loss of someone they know and love, absolutely not. For the victim who is now potentially reliving what transpired? Again, no.

Perhaps Gayle didn’t intend to cause harm. Unfortunately intent vs outcome are two totally different things. What we as individuals have to be responsible for is the outcome – the results of our actions. Gayle didn’t get a pass and I understand why that is. The frustration expressed by many was apparent. However, when the disrespect and threats came from Snoop Dogg, social media seemed silent in comparison to the voices who expressed their discontentment with Gayle – who by the way doesn’t get a pass.

People disagree. Always have and always will. The manner in which we handle disagreements is where our true work is in 2020 and beyond.  We should be able to dialogue with difference; to dialogue without incorporating disrespect but apparently we have not yet arrived . 

Malcolm X once said:

“The most disrespected person in America is the Black woman. The most unprotected person in America is the Black woman. The most neglected person in America is the Black woman.”

And with this sentiment, Snoop Dogg doesn’t get a pass either. Each of us will need to do better when we dislike an individual and/or when we disagree- in the absence of our excuses so that ultimately this world will be better for our children and our children’s children.